true story (happened to think about it just this week): at college there was a band playing in the hall of the school and everyone was sitting on the floor. Suddenly I can hear from behind me "i can see your fat silhouette.." that really hurt and the comment haunted me for weeks (I think i immediately went to the bathroom and put a sweater on, i had on something tight, which i usually dont, so was allready very selfaware). I thought why would you go out of your way to offend and hurt someone. It was not like we were face to face talking (which would still be rude but less sociopath...). Years later i thought, maybe he meant it in a good way. I am still not certain..