How to take Criticism
Last updated: Monday April 5th, 2021
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As you saw in the blurb, this may sound hypocritical to you. The ability to take criticism is a subject way too often discussed on JetPunk. If I remember correctly, I myself has been told.
Now if this doesn't work for you, I have no hurt feelings. I have been told much shorter and less thought out versions a hundred times in my life- but it is something that had to come naturally. Telling someone how to take criticism who can't take criticism is a hard task.
What Happened with Me
Let me have a chance to be fully honest. As said above, I have gotten into trouble and displeased or annoyed numerous people. On numerous occasions. You may have seen me on JetPunk, saying stuff like, "You don't have to read my blog"- a quite annoying phrase.
It isn't like he wasn't the only person who thought my blog was over formatted...No, of course not! The world loves me! That was my ego getting in the way- not looking at the big picture and wanting to be right. I have come to benefit from this TED Talk. It describes in detail how to not take things personally, a subject that goes hand in hand with criticism. Check it out in your free time!
Moving on to what I was going to say, I wasn't happy. No, I was angry because the person gave constructive criticism. What did I do? I swatted it like a fly. I am 90% sure that that person doesn't comment on me anymore because of that occasion. What I could've done was fixed it so the mobile design was better, more people could read it, and the same thing wouldn't happen again. Not five blogs and still happening....
I have found out this weirdly, in the way I have no idea why. Someone says I did something wrong, and I find myself saying, "Sorry, it won't happen again". And it isn't to get out of trouble or avoid an argument. I mean it. That one-sentence response is one of the ones I will be showing today.
How to Deal with Criticism
Someone makes a criticizing comment against you. No praise, and full of menace. Welcome to the real world... No, I was joking. My understanding of how the world operates as a thirteen-year-old is far from true. But all jokes aside, find the information on that comment. Emotions are non-existent, and you can now effectively react. This is what I like to do.
Reaction: What is the person's intent? Is it beneficial? How could you apply this? Be careful on this part. It sounds a whole lot harder than it is. From my experience, that simple moment of thinking about it without being angry at the person makes it a lot easier to remember. It'll eventually become a habit.
Reply:This one is only slightly more complicated. If you've accurately figured out what the person talking wants or wishes for you, it will help. However, it depends on who you are talking to.
For someone commenting on JetPunk, a friend, or just really anyone other than the other criteria, use something along the lines of what I said. "Sorry, I'll do better next time". No glare, no eye-roll, no nothing. Just an true expression of understanding. Because you do understand. You are taking what they said and putting thought into it, so chances are you will remember.
For an authority figure (parent, teacher, boss, site manager, etc.), I thought it would be different, but I realized this is exactly the same. ;&).
Well, thanks for your time and effort in reading this. Come to think of it, it might be super opinionated. Tell me how to improve!
Criticism...it's like that one healthy fruit you don't want or like, but you need.
- Malkiboy
a.) blocks me
b.) thinks it's a debate, and tries to undermine my criticism
On the other hand, I know sometimes people aren't trying to help us. They are just mad or trying to show how smart they are by criticizing others, but we shouldn't let that become our problem. It's their problem.
Anyway, I think this is a great topic to bring up in Jetpunk, though some people will probably criticize you for it lol
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